Struggling? It May Be Time to Surrender


How lovely life can be when all seems to fall so perfectly in place. One finds that perfect mate, lands that perfect job—life is perfect. When life suddenly throws you that unexpected curveball however, would it be easier to give up or can one surrender to it?

In this ever-evolving age of social media (or what some might call “anti-social” media) one can find it difficult to be in a state of pure contentment. With endless and tired distractions, hundreds of millions of people have now attached themselves to one another to hopefully secure their online celebrity status, or more frighteningly, their happiness. And now that many of these methods seem to exit from our lives more quickly than ever, there is an overwhelming sense of loss, sadness and devaluing of our culture.

“Knowledge is learning something every day.
Wisdom is letting go of something every day.”
~ Zen Proverb

So, how can one surrender to circumstance?

In a previous post I mention how I decided to block social media sites for 12 hours a day. I found myself in the midst of an inner struggle, spending hours upon hours looking for uplifting articles and photos to share. My ego was hustling to build more Facebook fans, likes to posts and more Twitter and Instagram followers, while beneath it all was the one thing I wanted so desperately to do, and could do at any time. That was to surrender the need altogether.

Many grasp so tightly to the reasoning (or excuses) behind the challenges they face, yet there is a way to surrender the cursed hows, whats, whys, wheres, and whos of yesterday. Once I chose to fully let go of the egoic perception of my outer world, I found the way to live simply; without attachment.

“To hold, you must first open your hand. Let go.” ~ Lao Tzu

I had to wholeheartedly accept the ups and downs of life as part of the experience, not the circumstance. Nothing is ever permanent, and once I began to repeat this thought as truth I could no longer listen to the deafening, unavoidable lies that I wanted more of anything.

Some might argue that surrendering means giving up or giving in – to reluctantly raise that tattered white flag and wave it in despair. On the contrary, To surrender is not to give up the struggle, but finding peace within the struggle. Within every trial and tribulation there is a lesson; a way to see beyond the struggle and let go of the emotion attached to it. By realising this as the utmost truth, moments that once seemed chaotic and inevitable become weightless and less significant. Surrendering is about completely letting go of the self-imposed expectations and limitations of Self.

The more one becomes attached to memories of the past, the more difficult it is for our mind to be in the present.

By taking the time to be still and sit in silence, one can finally surrender the resentment, anger, dishonesty to humanity and oneself. Inner strength will gently unfold, and embrace a new beginning.

It’s your turn. Have you found a way to surrender to the challenges you face? Please share your comments below.

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  • Just reading your post, I found myself breathing deeper and allowing stress to lift from my shoulders. It is important to set limits and set aside time for oneself. Thank you for sharing at the #HomeMatters Linky Party. Pinned and shared. 🙂

    ~Lorelai @ Life With Lorelai

    • So thankful for your post, dearest @lifewithlorelai:disqus. It is a wonderful reminder that I am continuing to share wisdom that can calm the mind and open the heart. 🙂 And thank you SO very much for pinning and sharing. 😉 xoxo

  • Gosh I just joined IBA and read your post at the right time. I have reached social media saturation point and am worn out and haven’t been feeling myself for the past 2 weeks. As a blogger I walk this line and I think I need to step back and revaluate what it is I really want to do…and build in some efficiencies. #ibabloggers

    • Dear @janineripper:disqus, thank you SO very much for taking the time to read my post. I totally understand how you feel when it comes to social media saturation. In a previous post I mention an app I now use which keeps me at bay with the “overload.” I hope you find useful as well: xoxo

  • Talk about great ‘coincidence’! I have been feeling so depressed before Christmas. Maybe having a holiday blues but your post really speaks to me and help me understanding and honoring my own feelings. So happy to connect with you through IBA!

    • Thank you SO much, @ScoopsofJoy:disqus! I tend to feel depressed during the Christmas season and I have found that having the courage to surrender to all that is helps in the journey. Very happy to connect with you through IBA as well. 🙂